Amy Scott's Thoughts

Sharing the thoughts that bounce around in my brain!

What Fills You Up August 25, 2018

Filed under: Simply Me — Amy Scott @ 10:48 am

Earlier this week Jeremy mentioned that he was offered a ticket to a Seahawks game and he wondered if I would be okay with him attending. I was totally okay with that. Jeremy works hard at his job. He’s also been Super Dad with the boys – taking them a little extra over the last couple weeks so I could work on MOPS & MOMSnext things or because I’ve been sick. He has stepped up and given them awesome experiences of “man time” with their dad. I believe in the value of those father/son moments.

My first thought was Jeremy is awesome, he deserves a night out to do something fun. And then my next thought was… I wish I had fun. Pathetic, right? I love my kids and I love the ways that I get to serve at my church and in my community. Those things are important to me. It dawned on me though that my time away from the kids this month has been work or illness related. I just don’t take time to get away for myself. I gave Jeremy the thumbs up on going to the game and then I mentioned my desire to have a little fun too. He wholeheartedly agreed that I needed to find a way to fill up my tank. He offered to watch the boys on Friday so I would take some time for myself. I felt like I was handed the world and I didn’t quite know what to do with it. I don’t have hobbies that take me outside of the house. I like to read. I like to bake. I like to blog. All these things happen at home and I truly love and appreciate any time I get to be home alone. But occasionally, I want to get out and do something. Friday was my ticket.

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Friday morning in the Scott Household

Friday morning I got ready and exited my bedroom to a frantic four year old who needed to snuggle with me. All morning, until nap time. Jeremy had informed the boys that I was leaving for the day and even harder to swallow was the fact that I decided to go spend time with Auntie April without them. The horror!!! I “snuggled” both my boys for about 15 minutes of constant tears. The begging went from “please take me with you” to “please don’t go!” At one point, Jeremy joined into the crying just to make it a trifecta of wailing Scotts. I drove out of the driveway to a tearful sight and just two minutes later Jeremy texted me saying that the moment the boys went into the house, the tears stopped and all was well. Crazy, right? They can turn those emotions on and off so fast!

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Enjoying mac & cheese and quality time with my sister!

This week I’ve been really sick with a sinus infection due to the hazardous air in our area. I wasn’t sure I had the energy to do much with my free day, but I wanted to make the most of it. I decided to head down to Longview  – it has more stores than Chehalis and I could meet up with my sister for some one-on-one time. It was great to go to multiple stores and not have to go through the car seat unloading and reloading process. April and I ate lunch without having to strategize on what food was most likely to get eaten and what would be rejected by tiny humans. And I had the ride down and back to think, pray and ponder life. Such a blessing and truly a gift for Jeremy to send me off for the day. Even though the boys acted like they were dying, I knew they were in good hands. 4-5 hours without their mom wasn’t going to end the world.

This was a good reminder for me. Both parents need to do fun things. We both need to invest in things we love and we both need that self-care of doing something fun just for the sake of having fun. I am grateful that I have a husband who enjoys spending time with our kids and doesn’t view taking care of them as a “mom” job. We are a team. Sometimes we do that job together and sometimes we do it apart so the other spouse can work or play.

I was also reminded that if I don’t speak up and share my needs, they won’t easily get met. Jeremy isn’t a mind reader. He doesn’t know when I need a break unless I verbalize it. It’s good to say something before you get burnt out. And while big days out without the kids aren’t the norm for me, I’m also reminded how life giving reading, baking, blogging, and journaling are to me. If I can’t squeeze a day to myself onto the calendar, I need to hit up my go-to hobbies that fill me. Even some thing as small as changing the warmers in my house to a favorite scent can fill me up. I recently changed my warmers to a baked apple pie scent and my house smells like the upcoming fall season and that makes me happy. Jeremy is growing an absurd amount of little pumpkins in his garden and come September, I plan on putting little pumpkins everywhere. This makes me happy.

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It seemed appropriate to put Target in the background of our picture together!

There so many things that fill up and bring me joy. I need to be intentional about keeping them scattered through out my days. Life can’t be all work and productivity because for me that leads to illness. I end up on a cycle on full speed productivity and then completely laid out while I recover. There needs to be a middle ground where I can slow down. I’ve found that balance is an elusive thing. Maybe you can relate? Some months certain commitments take more time and effort and then they are replaced by a different commitment or season. It’s hard to get just the right balance of work, play, family, friends, serving, community and quiet. Certain things will demand more time at different times. It doesn’t all break down evenly. And that’s okay. After a super busy season, you need to slow down and invest in yourself. You can’t put that off forever. And as much as I don’t want summer to end because I know a lot responsibility is coming in the fall, I can’t live in summer mode forever. The calendar ebbs and flows and I don’t want to fight the tide. I want to embrace each day and each moment with the mindfulness that I can’t give what I don’t have. I can’t love my family, friends, and community unless I’m able to spend time with Jesus and as an introvert – spend time alone. I need to do the things I love throughout the week and month so I am able to share a joyful and peaceful spirit with those who come in contact with me.

I know this is a lesson we all know. I’ve known it for years. But I’m still practicing it. I still need reminders. I don’t live it out perfectly. Thankfully, each day is a new chance and a new opportunity. I might never get it right, but I get a lifetime to try and for that I am grateful.

 

Making the Days Count August 20, 2018

Filed under: Simply Me — Amy Scott @ 9:37 am

We are now at the two week mark until school starts and we’ve been making the days count. Filling them with so much summertime goodness while we still can. I can’t make up my mind if I am excited for fall to come. It is my favorite season – full of my favorite things, but this summer has been pretty awesome. We’ve done so much to have fun and enjoy the free time we’ve been given. I love routine and structure and yet at the same time, I’m not sure I’m ready to go back to the real world. Well, ready or not, here it comes. I plan on making these last few weeks of summer as much fun as I possibly can!

I mentioned in my last post that we had an jammed pack week ahead of us and we did… but of course, true to life, the week didn’t pan out quite like I had hoped. On Monday, I noticed my throat felt funny, but it wasn’t too bad. Then I went out for my evening walk and it was super smokey and hazy, but I thought nothing of it. By the time I went to bed that night, my throat hurt insanely bad. Jeremy told me it was probably due to the air quality and joked that I was “sensitive”. However, he looked it up and noted that the air quality was hazardous to all people, not just sensitive ones. The air quality on Tuesday was super bad, but I had a commitment to be at the farmer’s market that day, so that meant outside time as well. Tuesday night we went to bed with the fan in the window and I almost took it out because I could hardly breathe the air coming in. Here is the fun part, I woke up on Wednesday morning with the room spinning. Side effects of toxic air are sinus issues, sore throat, headaches… yep… So I was literally laid out by the air this week.  On Wednesday, I was supposed to take the kids up to Olympia to the kid’s museum. We had cousins coming over that afternoon to spend the night. This was not a good time for the room to spin. I was able to rest and medicate and Jeremy was a super hero who jumped in and took the boys to the museum.  The air cleared up on Thursday and we were able to enjoy our cousins sleepover and spend time outside! After one set of cousins went to stay with Nana & Papa, we drove down to see the other set of cousins and watch my nephew, Keegan, play his last soccer game.

At the beginning of the summer, I made a list of all places I wanted to take the boys. NW Trek was on the list and when we heard that Nana & Papa planned to go on Friday, we jumped on board and joined them. It was a fun day watching the kids run, play and explore. My husband loves the tram ride they offer. He loves searching for animals even more than the kids do.  Saturday was a day around the house for projects – Jeremy worked on touching up the paint on the outside of the house, the boys helped Grandpa wash his car and I cleaned the inside of the house. I love days at home where we can be productive, but we also get to work at own pace with no stress or rush. This is the bliss of a sunny, summer Saturday. Sunday, we got to check off another summer bucket list item  by going to the SWW Fair. Owen was tall enough to do all the rides he wanted except the Ferris Wheel. Graham could only on the carousel, so he did that twice before we went off to play games with the rest of our tickets. Graham especially loved the animals. We enjoyed our favorite fair food treats which for the boys is mini-donuts and for me is an elephant year.

Now to decide how the last two week of summer will look… I have some ideas. For a low-key outing, we’re going to Burger King to have lunch with friends today. The air has become smokey again, so I’m trying to find fun things to do inside. The poor air quality adds a challenge to our activities, but I think we’re up for it. I’ll let you know how it goes soon.

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Unloading MOPS & MOMSnext supplies at the church. We ride in style!

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Bringing Daddy a coffee

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Testing our crafts out at the farmer’s market. Our MOPS & MOMSnext group sponsored a craft at the Kid’s Club.

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Making a pie with the berries we picked. The boys are saying “pie” in this picture.

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Four ducks in a row!

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Double the fun on Thursday with the cousins!

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Checking out cousin Keegan’s soccer game

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Cheering for Keegan

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Moose at NW Trek

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Bison

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NW Trek

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River Otter Love

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Tram Ride at NW Trek

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Tram Ride at NW Trek

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NW Trek

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Munching on mini donuts! Their favorite fair food! 

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Carnival games are perfect for kids who are too short to ride the rides. 

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Don’t let the tense smile fool you, Owen was so excited for his ride on the wacky worm! 

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The only ride Graham could go on! At least he got to go on it twice and had a great time! 

 

Prep Mode: Fall is coming… August 13, 2018

Filed under: Simply Me — Amy Scott @ 6:25 pm

August arrived and with it came the realization that things needed to get done before September knocks on our door. It’s been such a fun summer playing with my kids that it’s has been a bit hard to pull myself out of party mode and become a serious adult again with responsibilities. We still have some summer fun up our sleeves before the end of August and that is helping me cope with the countdown to September.

The main thing that kicked into full speed has been MOPS & MOMSnext prep. We just had our leadership planning retreat at my house this weekend. It was a such an honor to welcome these fantastic leaders into my home and spend Friday night and Saturday morning dreaming with them about the upcoming MOPS & MOMSnext school year. I had fun making the “Find Your Fire” theme come to life in the decor for the weekend. Along with prepping for our weekend of planning, we had an outing at the spray park today (more on that later) and tomorrow we will be sponsoring the kid’s club at our local farmer’s market. We have less than a month until our first meeting so the clock is ticking. After the spray park today, I took off for Hobby Lobby to finish up our door prize shopping. Every day I’m checking items off the to-do list and turning it into a to-done list.

The other responsibility that needs some prepping is back to school shopping for Owen. Luckily, we aren’t at the school supply list stage yet, but he is wearing all the same clothes he went to preschool in last fall. And he has probably grown 4 inches since then. While I was hosting our leadership retreat this weekend, Jeremy took the boys out Friday night to do back to school shopping. My friends all joked about trusting Jeremy with this sacred task. He did pretty well with the exception of a clearance Snoopy 4th of July shirt. Not exactly what I had in mind for back to school clothes. The cutest surprise on Friday was my little boys walking in dressed up as a firemen. Jeremy had made an executive call and got their Halloween costumes early. Last year we went back and forth so much on what the boys should be. He wanted to avoid that this year. More power to him. Plus, the boys are just starting to get into dress up, so I’m hoping we can add to their costume collection soon. What better time then right around Halloween? Lots of costume choices out there.

Moving on to my funny spray park story… Jeremy had promised to drive back up to camp today to make sure the next team was prepped for their week of camp. As a long time director and having already finished with a week of camp this summer, he was happy to lend a hand. The boys really wanted to see the camp where Daddy stayed for a week, so Jeremy invited them along for the adventure. Originally, I was going to join them for this outing up north, but later Jeremy suggested I stay home and use the quiet the time to do whatever I wanted… Whatever I wanted looks like MOPS & MOMSnext emailing, Usborne book party prep, cleaning the house, lots of laundry, organizing MOPS & MOMSnext stuff to take to the church, going shopping in Olympia and coming home to do online shopping… oh and going to the spray park for an MOPS & MOMSnext outing without my kiddos in tow! As silly has it sounds, I thought it might be fun to hang out with the moms and not have the pressure of watching my own kids. The only downside was I stayed for about 15 minutes at the park because no one was there. A couple friends had told me they couldn’t make it today and another friend said she ended up showing up late. No big deal. Summer play dates can be hit or miss and for some reason the spray park never has a strong showing… put that in the notes for next year… Anyway, I could have skipped the outing, but my “I’m the leader, I need to be at everything” training just wouldn’t let me leave it be. Plus, sitting in the sun for 15 minutes before going to Hobby Lobby wasn’t going to kill me. I got my Vitamin D for the day.

The week ahead is full of adventure. It’s really the last jammed packed week I have for this summer. But you’ll just have to hear about that in my next post. See you in a week!

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Donuts with the grandparents

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Summer Bliss

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Lots to do

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Breakfast out with Dad

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Hanging with my boys 

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Last day of swim lessons = fun day = jump off the diving board day

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Another session completed! 

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When the theme is Find Your Fire, you play YouTube videos of a campfire to set the mood! 

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The MOPS & MOMSnext team that I am honored to serve alongside! 

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My little fireman! 

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Doesn’t get much cuter! 

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Blackberry picking for the summer family challenge

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Cute Pumpkins! 

 

Life Lessons from Daniel Tiger August 6, 2018

Filed under: Simply Me — Amy Scott @ 5:36 pm

When you’re walking through certain seasons of life, things can stick and create very poignant memories of that period in time. This week I was reminded of one of those seasons by a Daniel Tiger song. Flashback to August 2016, Graham was still an infant & Owen was two. We had a DVD of Daniel Tiger episodes and we often watched the episode where ducky has to go to the farm. This makes Daniel sad and the song for the episode goes “It’s okay to be sad sometimes. Little by little you’ll feel better again.” I heard this song over and over again and in a way in become my mantra, something I sang to myself. We were selling our first home and packing up all our belongings. And then the sale of the house fell through (for the first time). My husband was under a lot of stress and it was having a negative impact on his health. While we were on the cusp of a great adventure in building our home, this month of August was uncertain and scary. I was excited for the prospect of building our dream house, but I was packing up my belongings to send to storage for what ended up being almost a year and a half. I was leaving the home we brought out babies home to from the hospital. I was a mom of two young boys just trying to sleep through the night and process a lot of big life stuff at the same time. I was sad. The sad song was something that I related to and it didn’t help that I heard it over and over again thanks to our love of Daniel Tiger.

Why am I sharing all of this? Graham pulled out that DVD this weekend and wanted to watch the ducky episode. As I heard the song, I thought about how far we’ve come since that song was constantly stuck in my head. And the truth is little by little, I do feel better about where we are now. Working through habits to handle stress better, building a house, living in transition – those weren’t easy situations. They were, however, good and worth it in the long run. When we moved into our new house, the first song we played as we moved in was “Grateful” by Elevation Worship. I was so thankful! Even now, I’m still basking in the joy of being home, being settled and being in a new season as a family. This summer especially has felt like a gift. So much fun has been had, so many sweet memories have been made.  As I listened to the sad song this week, I remembered how real those feelings were at the time and how little by little we walked through the hard stuff into a season of joy. I know that the song “Grateful” will always hold a special place in my heart as our moving day song. Memories have stuck to these melodies and it’s amazing how hearing a familiar tune can take you back to another time and place. All I know is that God is good no matter what we’re walking through and Daniel Tiger is was right – little by little you’ll feel better again!

 

How We Survive Kids Camp Week August 3, 2018

Filed under: Simply Me — Amy Scott @ 1:57 pm

Every year my husband directs a week of camp for our network. It’s the same camp that our Bethel Kids attend, so he gets the two hats of director and children’s pastor to wear. Every summer I pretend like this week isn’t coming and then it happens and we survive and life goes on. My main strategy for surviving a week without Jeremy is to pack the week full of fun things. Every day is an adventure. It makes the days fly by quickly. And helps the boys to sleep hard at night! This year we’ve been burning the candle at both ends with morning play and evening swim lessons.

I want to give a huge shout out to my people, my tribe, the village that is helping me raise these wild boys. Each day I’ve had an adventure with a family member or a MOPS & MOMSnext friend. I had help from both sets of grandparents for swim lessons. While I was “single momming” it this week, I was not alone. I had my people with me and it made all the difference! And truth be told, Jeremy had to come home on Tuesday to sign some papers, so we got 15 surprise hours with Daddy around (half of those hours were spent sleeping, but I sleep so much better when he is home, so I’ll take any unexpected time I can get). I am thankful, grateful and blessed by the people I get to do life with. I couldn’t imagine a week on my own with the community we have here.

So here is how we survived the week of kids camp:

  • Monday: Multnomah Falls & IKEA with Auntie April & Grandma
  • Tuesday: Park play date with friends & an unexpected visit from Jeremy
  • Wednesday: Dollar summer movie & children’s museum with friends
  • Thursday: Play Date at our house with friends & a quick visit from Auntie April
  • Friday: Lattin’s Cider Mill with Grandma

Now we are counting down the hours, minutes, seconds until Jeremy is back home with us. We sure do love and miss that man he is not around. I’m grateful for technology that lets us video chat and for text messages through out the day or a phone call right before bed. While he is away, we still can connect! What a blessing!

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Stopped by the library to turn in our summer reading program and pick up our free goodies!

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Visiting Chehalis Fest

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Chehalis Fest 

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Cleaning up for a summer wedding

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Our little family!

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Multnomah Falls

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Sharing dessert at IKEA

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Graham’s first swimming lesson. He likes the water about as much as we expected… so not a lot, but he is making it.

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Swimmer dudes!

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Graham’s first movie in the theater!

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Children’s museum in the mall with friends.

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I surprised Owen and let him have a sleepover in my room last night. He was so happy! 

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Our last scheduled outing! Playing around Lattin’s Cider Mill & eating doughnuts.